Think about how you may be contributing to the problem before you talk to them.
What quality could you be blind to that could be making an issue bigger than it has to be?
Some common blind spots for people are:
* Monopolizing conversations and not allowing the other person to speak
* Discussing private information with other people that makes your friend feel betrayed
* Controlling the friendship to the point where the person feels stifled
* Anger and acting out
* Risky behaviors
* Self pity
* Holding grudges or seeking revenge
* Drama queen or martyr
Yeah, there's a lot of them. We humans can get pretty creative with our bad selves. Do you recognize any of these behaviors in yourself? If so, list the one(s) that apply.
If not, does the list help you think of something that may be in the way? If so, what? If nothing registers with you, you may have a bigger blind spot than you realized, but we'll help you get at it if you'll let us.