Welcome to the new Navitent!

Start:May 17, 2022

Duration:10 Minutes

Goal: this Cognitive Trail will improve the ability to make friends who bring out the best in you (Your Peeps).

Description: 'Your Peeps' is the 3rd in the Next Step series that give specific, daily guidance that leads toward friends and confidantes who help trekke ... Read More


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JP NextStep


Step 1

Hi there!

Today we're going for the gut check. It keeps us honest and is the only real way we know to move forward in life.

Where are you with friendships or dating relationships that you know are taking you down a bad path?

Step 2

If you aren't comfortable yet in removing yourself from a negative friendship for relationship, then is it because you're still nervous about how to let go? Why is that?

If this is the case for you, then what's their hold on you?

If this isn't your issue, describe a frequent struggle you have with friends and people you date.

Step 3

Maybe you need a vacation. It's way to deal with difficult relationships.

Take a vacation, not to a place, but away from the person. You can spend time apart without any communication or contact with them.

This time it's not two days to decide whether they should be in your life. You already know the answer to that one.

This is the first step in letting go for good. Want to hear more?

Step 4

If you're not comfortable in removing someone permanently yet, then try the vacation concept.

Tell them you'd like a one-month break or 'vacation' with no communication and no time together, so you can accomplish some personal goals and do some thinking about how you want your life to look. Tell them you need some space do this. In fact, insist upon it. This act alone will give you much-needed strength and confidence for the rest of the break off.

This gives you both time to reflect and adjust.

Are you more comfortable with this idea of a 'vacation' from each other?

Step 5

Remember what we talked about yesterday? Spend an hour a day alone with yourself to reconnect to 'real you'.

How willing are you to take that hour today and envision what you would do with your future if you had nothing holding you back?

Step 6

Start with this. Imagine the dreams you've had in the past and the life you'd live if you allowed yourself to be 'real you'.

Describe your dreams in the space provided.

Step 7

As much as it's in your power to do so, be 'real you' today. Let the qualities you like best about yourself come out.

Talk to people on the street, at school or work who you've never met before. Do this as 'real you', have fun, no holes barred.

Will you give it a try?

Step 8

When your confidence has increased, have the vacation discussion with your problem friend/dating partner.

How willing are you to give these steps an honest effort?

Step 9

Have a good rest of your day!

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