Do you know how to flip messages that make things appear worse than they really are?
Here's the thing about flipping negative self talk to good: it takes off pressure you were never meant to experience.
It's not about the reality of any situation you're facing. It's about refusing to allow situations to get out of control. It's about learning how much power you have to overcome challenges by changing the way you perceive them.
For example, you can see a challenge and say, "OMG! Not again! This can't be happening! I'm getting my butt kicked."
Or you can see the same challenge and say, "Hmm...here's my chance. I can think through this carefully. I'll find a way around it, over it or through it. I'm going to develop my strengths while I do it. I think I'll make it easier on myself by respecting the fact that people genuinely care about me and want to help out. So I'll ask for help."
You've gone from "I've lost; this situation is bigger than I am" to "I've won and gained strength and friendships in the process."
Start by taking what you've been telling yourself lately that was negative and flip it around to its opposite message where you're the winner.