Day 21_You Always Had It

Congratulations! You've reached the Summit of Respect!!!

Let's begin by recalling what you've learned so far. Start by flipping those thoughts that put you down. Oh you'll mess up in life occasionally. That's not the point.

Mistakes don't prove the messages were right. They only prove that you get another chance to establish what is good and right about who you are.

Will you defeat those messages with the truth about who you are and where you're heading in life the instant they pop up?

Will you find someone to help you see clearly when you're confused or in the middle of a conflict?

Not a 'yes' person or a pleaser but a person who knows you and respects you enough to tell you the truth.

Will you make it a habit to say thank you and show your gratitude by doing something kind for the people helping you find your way?

It keeps you humble and shows them respect.

It's important not to assume anything. That can end up making you look bad. You don’t want that. Trust us. We’ve been there. Too many times.

Remember that respect begins with what you're telling yourself, so make sure you're telling yourself that you're worth being shown respect and respecting others.

As you approach the person who offended you:

*HEAD UP
*SHOULDERS BACK
*CONFIDENT SMILE (think Will Smith in "Hitch" or Salma Hayek as herself or Drew Barrymore in "Ever After")

Maintain that posture throughout the conversation.

You could start the conversation with, “When you say this (fill in the blank).....it makes me feel like (fill in the blank). What did you really mean by that?"

The more you approach situations this way, the more natural it will become and the more authority you'll exude. The point isn't to dominate or to be submissive. It's to resolve a difference.

How comfortable are you in using this approach?

On a scale of 1 to 10, how worthy of respect do you feel with 1 being not at all and 10 being comfortable in most situations?

We know you're well on your way to becoming the man or woman you were destined to become, the one that makes you feel your absolute best, the real you.

*We hope a strong group of capable people show up and encourage you through important changes in your life.

*We hope you develop an understanding of your value and that it far exceeds whatever you've imagined up to this point.

*You only have to look inward to connect to it. Your value has been there all along. It's immeasurable and unconquerable. You're the only one who has the power to refute it.

*We hope you use your power for good. Know that we believe in you all the way.

*We hope you'll keep doing The Next Step to learn how to outsmart the things that trip you up. You'll outsmart it. It's what makes you so strong. It's what others look up to in you.

*We hope you're filled with an irrepressible joy and sense of peace about this adventure you're living.

You're blazing a trail for others to follow. How does that make you feel?

When you've finished this session, go to the 'related' field and select the 'Respect' checklist.

Schedule it as often you like to increase your momentum. We recommend a once-a-week refresher.

In addition, advance to the next step in your journey by going to the 'related' field again and selecting the 'Your Peeps' navigational series.

Schedule it. It runs for 21 days without interruption - that means through weekends and holidays.

Will you give it a try?

Do you think someone else could benefit from following the 'Respect' steps?

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All our best to you!