Those pesky filters. We've all got them, but how do they trigger so much drama?
Filters greatly contribute to how we take in information from others.
At the same time, filters are often distorted by unfamiliar or tense situations, past experiences and relationships with friends and family. They can also be affected by a sense of injustice whether that offense is real or perceived.
Filters affect what we hear, how we hear it, and how we relate to each other because of it. Filters can trigger drama if left unchecked.
In the first clip we showed you, David expressed one of his filters. He mistrusted people because of his past.
In fact, he was told at one point in his life, "Don't trust anyone." At the time, that was great advice. He was child in a forced labor camp in a country ruled by a severe, communist government. The former Soviet Union (now Russia) had tight control over this nation and used the camps to intimidate people into submission. Any so-called offense - or perception of an offense - was grounds for immediate execution - even a child. Twisted, huh?
But David was no longer in the camp during the scene you saw. Mistrust no longer applied now that he was in a safe situation.
Let's get at it another way. Answer this: what is your initial reaction to someone in authority (could be a teacher or boss) who approaches you and simply glances your way? Are you nervous or at ease?