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Start:May 18, 2022

Duration:10 Minutes

Goal: this Cognitive Trail will increase the confidence to understand your value and learn how to command the respect you deserve (Respect).

Description: This Next Step trail guides teens and young adults step-by-step each day until they discover their value and become confident in respecting ... Read More


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JP NextStep


Step 1

Hello there! We're so glad you returned!

Let's start today off by jumping up to the video icon to watch Bruce Willis in 'The Kid'. His younger self has shown up to teach him an invaluable lesson that helps him move on from the messages he's carried with him since childhood.

Tell us what you thought about the clip when you've finished watching it.

Step 2

Let's talk about those messages that your mind plays over and over. They go a long way to define how we think of ourselves, how we live, how we respond to other people and what we do about our dreams.

When you can be honest about your internal dialogue, the messages start to lose their power. If they remain hidden, they gain power.

Briefly describe 3 of those not-so-great phrases in the space provided. Be quick about this task. Don't dwell on it. Move to Step 2 as soon as you finish.

Step 3

Is it time to rewrite the internal dialogue that brings you down?

We repeat. You're not alone in this. We all have messages playing in our heads that try to hold us back. It's universal.

Think about the negative self talk that may have come from your past experience. These may be the basis of the phrases you wrote about above.

Consider dealing with them in this way. Every author knows that the words they start out with are likely going to be changed and maybe even rewritten completely. Their outline is revised repeatedly until they have the message and the story's ending that satisfies them.

Do you see how this metaphor is like the stages of life?

Step 4

Let's approach nagging messages as if we were the author.

We're referring to messages you replay inside your mind that stem from whatever happened that makes you squirm when you think about it.

Recognize the messages for what they are. Essentially they blame and shame us. They keep us down. Sometimes we have to stop blaming and shaming ourselves for the things that we've done or been accused of doing or experiences we've been through, much like the younger version of Bruce Willis' character in the clip you just saw.

How? Maybe you think your life is going to have an outcome that you're afraid might not go so well based on your past. We hear ya!

Would you consider rewriting that part of the book that says that "this is all there is, and things will never get better?"

Start here: Stop replaying memories about the past. Maybe it's time to forgive yourself, so you can move on freely.

How much does this relate to your story?

Step 5

If so, then let's start changing the message.

Doing so can rebuild your self confidence, which is fundamental in helping you understand that you are worthy of respect. Period.

So...let's start. How do you begin to revise the current chapter of your life story in a way that positively affects the outcome of your life story?

What happened happened. What was said was said.

Whatever you're telling yourself that makes you feel unworthy has to go. Time to hit the delete button on that message in your mind. The past is past.

You're in a new chapter of life with new opportunities. That starts by understanding that the pages of your life story are not complete. There are many blank spaces inside that have yet to be filled.

Chapter 1: How would you describe the person you are now?

Step 6

Imagine that the person you described in the above step meets the person you are today.

What would 'older you' say to 'current' you?

Step 7

Try this. It's a radical approach. Are you ready?

Each time you face a person who has been through something similar, encourage them. You can help them stop feeling bad about themselves by gently explaining how you're doing it. It helps even if you're only one page ahead of them.

Each time you use your experience to improve someone else's situation, you honor them. You honor yourself. You get just a little bit freer from those tough-to-hear messages in your head until one day, they're gone.

The bonus is that you regain your sense of dignity when you help someone regain theirs. The message in your head begins to change. Your whole attitude changes.

Will you keep your eyes open for someone to help through a similar experience, giving them hope and helping them remove their doubts?

Step 8

This is big stuff. Make sure you do something nice for yourself when you exit this navitent.

See you tomorrow.

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