Welcome to the new Navitent!

Start:May 17, 2022

Duration:15 Minutes

Goal: this Cognitive Trail will improve the ability to make friends who bring out the best in you (Your Peeps).

Description: 'Your Peeps' is the 3rd in the Next Step series that give specific, daily guidance that leads toward friends and confidantes who help trekke ... Read More


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JP NextStep


Step 1

Hello again!

Today we're sharing a bit of history with you that you can use right now. We're talking WAY back in the day.

As you saw in the 'Gladiator' clip yesterday, there was a formation unique to Roman soldiers where they overlapped their shields to become a strong force that moved together to defeat their enemy.

It was called the Testudo or tortoise battle formation.

Roman soldiers would fit their large, rectangular shields together to form a protective 'roof and walls' all around them.

It was said that, once formed, the Testudo was so strong that huge boulders couldn't break through. How's that for having your six covered?

Do you want to know how to have this strong a support system in your own life?

Step 2

To start building a 'Roman Testudo' kind of community of people, it's important to start with this: Remind yourself who you are at your core.

We're talking about the values you listed previously that make you who you are. Those values are your shield, and they give you the strength to be the person you're meant to be.

Remind yourself what they are. List your most important core values below.

Step 3

Next list how you think others see you.

Step 4

Honestly examine the qualities that haven't been helpful in building a strong group of friends. These could include hostility, insecurity or mistrust. You get the idea. (Yes, we've all got the negatives, and we've all got to deal with them honestly every day to overcome what's trying to get the best of us.)

If you want to change your negatives into constructive qualities, then go for the opposite trait.

It could look something like this: from angry friends to confident friends who feel no need to hold grudges or act out.

It helps to seek the things you're looking for in other people. You can model that quality until it becomes natural for you. Be careful with this.

We're NOT saying you should be fake or adopt someone else's mannerisms. We're NOT saying to become that person.

Be yourself.

Just try on a different quality and its behavior you like based upon the values that are most important to you. Try on the quality until you understand how it works and how it's helpful for you.

You can go from insecure to confident, for example, by adopting the more self-assured attitudes and behaviors that you see in other people. Confident, by the way, is not the same as cocky. We don’t recommend cocky. It can turn you into a loner if practiced too much.

Now, list two or three qualities that you like most about yourself.

Step 5

Now list the qualities that you've seen in others that you'd like to 'try on'.

Step 6

Will you make a promise to yourself to try on this new quality over the next week?

Where do you think it's best to try it on and how do you anticipate feeling as you do it?

Step 7

Is anything going to stop you from trying it out?

If you need more assurance, post to your Camps or to Publisher. We're in this with you.

See you tomorrow!

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