Honestly examine the qualities that haven't been helpful in building a strong group of friends. These could include hostility, insecurity or mistrust. You get the idea. (Yes, we've all got the negatives, and we've all got to deal with them honestly every day to overcome what's trying to get the best of us.)
If you want to change your negatives into constructive qualities, then go for the opposite trait.
It could look something like this: from angry friends to confident friends who feel no need to hold grudges or act out.
It helps to seek the things you're looking for in other people. You can model that quality until it becomes natural for you. Be careful with this.
We're NOT saying you should be fake or adopt someone else's mannerisms. We're NOT saying to become that person.
Just try on a different quality and its behavior you like based upon the values that are most important to you. Try on the quality until you understand how it works and how it's helpful for you.
You can go from insecure to confident, for example, by adopting the more self-assured attitudes and behaviors that you see in other people. Confident, by the way, is not the same as cocky. We don’t recommend cocky. It can turn you into a loner if practiced too much.
Now, list two or three qualities that you like most about yourself.